By the way, today is less "theory" and more bright idea.
|(Photo from a Google search and Your Guide to Living; Photoshopped by Jen)|
Deposits are kind words, thoughtful feedback, a smile, love, kept promises, courtesy, respect, patience or a listening ear. Withdrawals are negative comments, sarcasm, broken promises, lies, impatience and the list goes on. Special note: Each person values different things, so these lists of deposits and withdrawals will vary person-to-person.
Each time you interact with another person, you have an opportunity to make a deposit or withdrawal into their emotional bank account. Which one will you choose?
With this metaphor in mind, consider the following questions:
- How are you making deposits in your students’ emotional bank accounts?
- How are you making unintended withdrawals? I am optimistic they are unintended....
- For students from poverty, how can you make deposits to their emotional bank accounts knowing financial deposits, from a teacher, would be an anomaly?
- Are you happy with your current “banking activity" overall?
If you want to students to embrace this metaphor, as well, consider this activity from Covey’s Google e-book. The activity is for young kids, but it could be modified for any age, in my opinion. It comes from Dr. Covey's book the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families.
If you need a good person to practice deposit making, choose a family member or loved one, as your guinea pig.
Don't tell my husband, but I am secretly practicing emotional bank deposits on him. And no, I don't think he reads this blog, so my secret is safe. Mums the word.
Off to make a deposit,